Tuesday, October 1, 2013

8 Steps For Homeschool Mom Support



  1. Pray. Yeah I know it can be cheesy or cliché but we really need to pray. Partly it is our only tangible way of casting our cares upon the Father. We need to ask for help. But don’t forget to just listen for guidance as well.

  2. Learn to identify those sources of perfectionism or fear or whatever it is that tends to eat at you and disrupt your emotional well being. Create a mental filter for eliminating it from your life. Commit to letting go of any source of information that causes fear, doubt or emotional stress. The good it brings MUST outweigh the bad. We cannot(or should not) always avoid stressful people but sometimes there are ways of minimizing their influence over our emotions. don’t forget you can block people from your newsfeed without un-friending them.

  3. We need to live more in today and not so much in the future. Our kids are today, not “xyz” years in the future at graduation.Yeah I know we cannot ignore the future but as home educating moms the future can eat up the now.

  4. It is OK to say “I have a lot on my plate. I cannot do it all. Something has to give.” Either on your own or with your husband develop a unique to you priority plan. What is a “have to” for today/week. And what can wait or be skipped even if it is a should. At my sickest we decided that homeschool came before housework. Homeschool got my best and the house got the rest.

  5. Realize that any form of change is hard and takes time to get use to. New baby, homeschool method, chore routines, new job or shift. Even small things can throw big bumps in the road. Potty training, PMS, short but energy draining illness.

  6. Chaos is the norm with lots of littles. They are still getting used to the world and so much changes in such a short time with them. Multiple small children under the age of five should be the definition of chaos, unpredictability and disorder.

  7. Attempt to find positive things to fill your mind and/or time with. Try upbeat bible verses/passages. Find one really funny person or thing to put in your Facebook feed for a daily laugh. Fill your play list with some power songs that build you up.

  8. This may sound corny but those deep breathing semi-meditation things really do work. The basic one is to slowly breathe in while thinking one word or phrase and slowly exhale while thinking another related word or phrase. I’ve done a couple “Holy Spirit” and “inside me”. “Peace in” and “bad energy out”. Cheesy? Yes but it gives your mind a little tricked up boost.


Saturday, September 28, 2013

I Want To Be Like Jesus

"My Jesus" -Not your stereotypical, sanitized, white, American Jesus.
The real Jesus was went where we are too nice to go and He hung out with and ate dinner with people we wouldn't let our kids around. If Jesus were here in the flesh tomorrow, on Sunday, you wouldn't find Him in any church. He would be down on Division street talking to the drunks, pimps and prostitutes pouring His heart and soul into them.



Friday, September 27, 2013

Musing About the Narrow Way, Obedience and Doing Our Duty

The hip, cool, pious thing among committed Christians is to bemoan a lack. A lack of teachings about how vital it is to walk tightly to the narrow way, how we must strive to obey God/Jesus in everything and how we must be careful lest we find ourselves among those told "Depart for I never knew you".

Sometimes you can make a sharp point in a sweet way. By sweet I mean syrupy sweet. It makes it so much harder to bite back if you are syrupy sweet in your veiled rebuttal.

"Jesus is the narrow way. I am so glad I found Him. I am blessed that God's yoke is easy and His commands are light.(John 14:6, Matthew 11:30, 22:37-40, 1 John 3:22-24)"

I actually used this the other day in response to a heavy handed bemoaning post. I have no idea what became of it as I can no longer access the page. I left due to said heavy handedness. I regret not being able to put the full list of references with my statement but I was writing on the fly.
  • Jesus is the "narrow way". He is not merely a gate we walk through to a life of strictness.
  • God's yoke really is easy and light. God does not play games with words. he wrote it and He really means it.
  • Believe it or not twice the New Testament sums up all of God's rules and commands for Christians. Once from Jesus in Matthew and once in 1 John.
  • Drum roll please......The summed up commands are Love God/believe in Jesus and love others.
  • The first is actually quite easy. The second is much harder.

Thursday, September 26, 2013

The Type of Gospel I Grew Up Around

Ok this not a blanket summary of anything. This is simply my personal experience.

Let me begin by saying that all the churches, Christian people and books I grew up around really loved God, the bible and deeply desired to do the right thing. The problem was that they had forgotten or never learned the real core of the gospel.
For all the churches I had been around God was a stern judge-king, holy and untouchable. The Son of God was a moralizing teacher giving sermons about being good, obedient children. The gospel was something you used to get the lost through the Jesus-door and onto the narrow road of strict obedience. Christian living was keeping score of good deeds and paying penance for the bad stuff. You were going to heaven when you died if you believed in Jesus but the here-and-now was a battle of failing in your sin and being a constant disappointment to God.

The real-whole gospel is while we were yet sinners Christ died for us and once we put our faith in Him we are fully adopted by the Father. If we believe in Jesus we are no longer under condemnation and we have in our possession eternal-everlasting life. God sees us through the blood. because of the blood we have the righteousness of Christ, have been fully forgiven and are sanctified. This is not until we sin again or the sacrifice of Jesus would have been exactly like the animal sacrifices only able to offer cleansing until the next sin. The offering of Jesus was much, much more, full of power. His sacrifice was a once forever offering.

(Romans 4:22-25, 5:6-11, 8:15-17, Hebrews 9:12-14, 9:24-26, 10:1-22, John 3:15-18 &36) 

Wednesday, September 25, 2013

So Which Gospel Is The Real One?

Crazy question right? Not so much once you start exercising your discernment about all the gospel messages out there.
So instead of going about some lengthy argument or explanation let's just look at something Jesus said.
“That whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have eternal life. For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved. He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God." -John 3:15-21 (KJV)

There you have it folks straight from the mouth of the Son of God.

  • To not perish- believe
  • To have eternal/everlasting life- believe
  • To be freed from condemnation- believe
  • Believe on who/what? The Son of God
Where you place your faith-belief-trust is what determines your freedom from condemnation as well as your life everlasting. That is....unless you think Jesus was lying or telling half truths to Nicodemus. Adding to belief is adding to the basic message that Jesus spoke and in in fact saying that He lied or only spoke half truths.

Monday, September 23, 2013

Imputed Righteousness- Lie or Truth?

An honest evaluation can only be formed when all parties accept the same evidences. My foundation for evaluation is that 100% of the bible, from Genesis to Revelation, is the inspired word of God. God does not lie or contradict Himself.
So this imputed righteousness thing what is it and why should I know if it is true or not?

Imputed righteousness claims that a person is called righteous because they believe in Jesus. Another way of putting it is that God sees them as righteous because of their faith not their actual acts of righteousness or unrighteousness.

True or not? Those who say “not true” point to many verses about obedience and acts of righteousness and good works. Those who say “true” say that obedience, acts and good works have their place but that they are not what earns us our righteousness. They say that righteousness is given to us because of our faith not our actions.

OK here is what the bible says. No funny translations. Not lengthy explanations. Simply a plain interpretation, word-for-word, old school King James bible, set of verses.

“And therefore it was imputed to him for righteousness. Now it was not written for his sake alone, that it was imputed to him; But for us also, to whom it shall be imputed, if we believe on him that raised up Jesus our Lord from the dead" -Romans 4:22-24

Plain black-and-white print. “righteousness, for us also, it shall be imputed, if we believe on God”



Obligatory Disclaimer: No this doesn’t mean go do whatever you want to blah, blah, blah and etc. I am so tired of the lame, worn out accusation that this truth, among others, means folks can go kill people, fornicate and worship idols and still get into heaven because sin doesn’t seem to matter anymore. My reply is that the smallest sin such as telling a fib to your wife to soothe her temper is as equally sinfully, damnably evil as blowing up a building full of people. Sin is sin. All of it and any of it are what makes us filthy before God and worthy of condemnation. So if you sit easy calling your brother a fool while claiming that imputed righteousness promotes a life of extreme sin I ask you to look up Matthew 5:22 before throwing stones of ignorance.



Thursday, September 19, 2013

So What's Up With This "Gentle Parenting" Thing?

Do you want the long answer or the short one? ;)
Short Answer- Gentle parenting is an attempt to parent as peacefully as possible, teaching without punishment.
Hmm Long Answer... I think I will pass the explanation over to others who have been at it longer.
Here is a Christian pastor's brief definition of  Grace Based Discipline(basically the "Christian" version of gentle parenting) Grace-Based-Discipline
Here is a good summary article by the same author of the theology behind the whole idea. This is why I have chosen gentle parenting. The-Ironic-Dynamic
Here is another author explaining about boundaries. Babes-and-Boundaries-and-Gentle-Parenting
Here is the first article of a 3 part series taking a look at the traditional views of the "rod" verses found in the book of Proverbs. Rod-Verses-Taking-Rod-Verses-Literally
Here is a short though provoking article also about the "rod" verses. Spare-The-Rod-The-Heart-Of-The-Matter